FIVE TIPS TO START LIVING THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS
One of the best things about life is that we get to make it our own. It’s almost like a piece of artwork or music, it’s how we get to express ourselves by creating and telling our own story. As we make different choices that guide our lives in different directions we are creating this story. All of us have either felt, or currently feel pressure to live our lives a certain way. Whether it’s your parents wanting you to be a lawyer, trying to enjoy the same things as your friends, or always being told that the only way to succeed in life is to follow the same steps as everyone else. However, it’s so so so important to listen to yourself, and let life play out the way it’s supposed to for you! Everyone is different, and with that comes different opportunities, different abilities, and different life timelines. No one else in the whole world, or in all of history ever gets to live the life you’re currently living. So, we literally can’t all live and do the same things! Do what makes you happy, and only that.
When I left High School I had a whole year where I felt completely lost. I really didn’t know what I wanted from my life. I was just following everyone else around, watching and seeing what everyone else was doing, and seeing what I could possibly do. I ended up in school, taking random classes trying to decide what I wanted to do. But through that year of feeling lost, I finally learned that I needed to take the leap and figure out what I really wanted to do. It was hard. And yeah, finding your own path in life is going to be so difficult, and require a lot of hard work. But, you can definitely do it. And, if you don’t do it. Who will?
These are a few steps that I found myself taking after that year, that helped me feel not so lost, and get on the right path to where I wanted to be in my life. The whole point of this is that we are all different, so these steps might not be the same steps that you need to take in your life. But, hopefully they will help you figure out what is best for you, and get you thinking about what you can do. This is just what worked for me:)
NUMBER ONE: TRY EVERYTHING.
I would say that this is seriously the best way to figure out what you want, and actually know that you want it. Imagine you’re six years old again, everyone is sitting around the dinner table as your mom brings out the dinner she’s been cooking all day. Of course, it isn’t the Chicken Nuggets, or Macaroni and Cheese you dreamed about all day, so you start thinking you don’t like this meal, it’s so gross, you’ll never like it. And then your mom says “you’ll never know if you like it if you don’t try.” so , you try it, and end up really liking the meal! We can use that advice all throughout life. We’ll never know what we really like unless we try. So go to school across the world, take a dance class, learn to draw, go on a trip, and just see what you like. Make mistakes, and learn from your mistakes. Once you’re able to find what you enjoy, and what you’re good at, run with it. Figure out a way you can incorporate these things into your life. If you do what you enjoy, you’ll be able to progress so much more, because you’ll actually enjoy putting in effort and making progress!
I've tried, and failed at so many things. And, I still am trying, failing, and learning. I went to school for a while, but it wasn't the time for me. I just worked a part time job for a while, but struggled with that as well. I tried teaching English online, and even tried starting my own online little English teaching business, but found that it wasn't really for me. And now I find myself trying out a blog, just to see if it's what I really want and can be successful with. I guess we will see! The important part is just to try.
NUMBER TWO: ALWAYS CHOOSE WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.
It’s so important to find joy in everything you do. Find joy in your work, your relationship, your home. It’s only your responsibility to either love it or change it. No one else can do that for you. No one else can make you happy but you!!!!! You have to get up, figure out what you want, and do it. Regardless of anything else.
You have all the permission in the world to put yourself and your needs and wants first. It’s soooo hard to think that your needs and wants should be your priority. Especially when we’re always told do things for others first. But, you really do have to learn how to make yourself happy before you will know how to makes others happy. Just like on the airplane, how you need to put your own oxygen mask on before you can help others, you have to take care of yourself, and make yourself happy first, before you can think about anyone else.
Not gonna lie, this was something that was really difficult for me. I worried so much about making the people around me happy before I even thought about what I really wanted. It's so difficult to find the balance between your happiness, and the happiness of people around you. And it's something I'm still struggling to figure out.
NUMBER THREE: OTHERS OPINIONS DON'T MATTER SO MUCH
No one else in the world is living the same life as you, therefore, no one else knows what your story, why you do the things you do, or what you dream about. No one else has the right to make opinions about your life, or what you should or should not do. This life is yours and only you can truly know what is best for you.
When I first read this quote, I instantly wrote a journal entry about it. In the journal entry I talk about how much freedom I feel reading this quote, realizing that the only person I have to impress is myself. In the end, you do only have yourself. I think it’s better to disappoint others, than to disappoint yourself in the end. So, please! Listen to yourself, do what you want. And if people really love you, they’ll stay regardless of how you choose to live your life, and new, better people will join your life that live the same way as you.
NUMBER FOUR: TRUST AND LOVE YOURSELF
A huuuuge part of learning to create your own life is learning to trust yourself. With this comes loving yourself, and becoming more confident in yourself. Once you start following these other steps, mentioned above, like not listening to others opinions, and choosing what is best for you, you will kind of automatically start trusting and becoming more confident in yourself. Once you are able to see your choices bring good things for yourself, you will start to see that one of the only people you can really trust to bring yourself happiness is yourself.
Self love is something that is a struggle for so many of us. Learning how to love yourself is sooo difficult, but also so important. Your relationship with yourself is the most important and longest relationship you’ll ever have. All relationships require work and effort, just like your relationship with yourself, and so many of us forget that. It’s essential that you take time to take care of yourself, and learn how to love yourself. And, once you do, you’ll be able to grow more confident. And with that you’ll be able to access and activate your true potential. And you’ll just feel so much better and happier, like you can do anything you put your mind to.
NUMBER FIVE: PUT IN THE WORK
Yeahhh, this might just be the hardest part. This is a big thing I think that keeps people from being able to create your own path in life. You have to work hard. So hard. Probably harder than a lot of other people. You’ll have to learn things on your own, you’ll have to fail and learn from that. But, keep it up, and think of the end result. A lot of the time you’ll feel discouraged, and think everything would be so much easier if you just went back to how life was before. And that option will be easier, you’ve done that before, but you won’t be moving forward, or learning anything new from doing that. You have to learn to get out of your comfort zone, in order to keep moving forward and finding your place in the world. Also, all this work that you are putting in will get to be something that you enjoy doing! It’s so much easier and more exciting to work when it’s something that you like to do, and so much more satisfying to see yourself progress.
All the difficulties will be worth it in the end and you’ll be so grateful for all the work you put in that got you to where you always dreamed of… or at least I hope so, I haven’t gotten there yet hahahaha! But I'm pretty sure it will be amazing.
Now, I’m not saying that in order to create and live a happy life you have to go out and quit your job and travel the world. I’m just trying to show that you don’t have to feel trapped in a society where you have to do the same thing as everybody else. These five tips will help you with any aspect in life, in order for you to figure out what you really want to do, to take your life into your own hands, and personalize it, make it yours. I really believe that finding your purpose and following your dreams is a way to feel happier, and that you are living a fulfilling life, and it’s more fun! Don’t be afraid to be different than others, don’t be nervous to fail, you can do it! Don’t give up, and something will work out for you.